Grief is not a problem to solve. It is the cost of loving someone, and it looks different for everyone. Our care for your family does not end when the service does, and you are always welcome to call us.
Understanding grief
What You May Feel
Waves, not stages
Grief often comes and goes. A song, a smell or an anniversary can bring it back when you least expect it. That is normal.
Many feelings at once
Sadness, anger, relief, guilt and numbness can all show up, sometimes in the same hour.
Your own pace
There is no schedule for grief. Be patient with yourself and with the people around you.
Taking Care of Yourself
In the weeks after a loss, small things matter.
- Eat something, drink water, and rest when you can
- Accept help, and say yes when a friend offers a meal or a ride
- Talk about the person you lost, and let yourself cry
- Put off big decisions, if you can, until you feel steadier
- Go to a place that gives you comfort, and take a walk outside
Helping Children Through Loss
Children grieve too, in their own way. Use simple, honest words, and avoid phrases such as “went to sleep.” Let them ask questions, and answer as truthfully as you can.
Children are welcome at a viewing or service when the experience is explained to them beforehand and the choice is theirs. Familiar routines help them feel safe.
Reaching out
When You Need More Support
Grief can feel overwhelming. Please reach out to a doctor, counselor, clergy member or a trusted friend if you feel unable to cope. If you are thinking of harming yourself, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, at any hour.
Our team is here too. Call us at (740) 264-0563 and we will be glad to listen and point you toward help.
Good to know
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does grief last?
There is no set time. It often softens, but it may return on anniversaries and holidays. That is a normal part of loving someone.
Is it normal to feel angry or relieved?
Yes. Many people feel a mix of emotions, including anger, guilt and relief, especially after a long illness.
Does Shorac help after the service?
Yes. Our care does not end with the service. Call (740) 264-0563 any time you need a listening ear or a suggestion.
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You do not have to go through this alone. Call us, anytime. Call us any time at (740) 264-0563.